Pickled. Why Moderation is Impossible.
Having one foot into sobriety and one foot out is the most difficult stage to get through.
You know you should quit, but part of you still hopes that someday you can drink normally- without consequences, negotiations, or losing control..
The issue is, moderation will always fail because alcohol is not just a beverage for you, it’s the solution.
Since 2020, I’ve been researching:
Why some people can drink casually and stop for their entire lives
And why others develop an obsession with alcohol and are not satisfied with one drink
In this course, I distill 5+ years of research, lived experience, and helping thousands of people accept that they can’t moderate into 3 short, science-packed lessons you can finish in under 30 minutes.
This is not a course about being sober-curious.
It’s not about mocktails or fancy glasses or being grateful that you “get” to be sober.
This is a course that finally explains:
Why other people can have 1–2 drinks and disengage from alcohol,
and why problem drinkers can’t, not even after long breaks.
“I was afraid to say I will never drink again. It does not seem as scary now.”
“Your information has been life changing for me. I think connecting (you’ll find out inside the course lol) while listening to the information may be genius.”
“Maybe it’s been long enough”
“Maybe I wasn’t that bad”
“Maybe I can moderate now”
When alcohol is no longer an option for you, these thoughts will still appear, but you won’t participate in this debate anymore. You’ll know it will never be long enough, you were definitely that bad, and no, you still can’t moderate.
What’s more, you’ll be able to find something else to do and build new pathways before you fall deeper into the rationalization process.
You’ll be able to finally let go
“It helped me to solidify the belief that I just can’t drink. That has been coming over years of going back and forth.”
What does this course cover?
Module 1: Not Everyone Experiences Alcohol in the Same Way. Your Experience Shapes Your (Lack of) Ability to Moderate
Module 2: The Missing System: The Off Switch and Being Satisfied With One Drink
Module 3: No, it Will Never, Ever, Ever, Ever be Different. Here’s Why.
How I Let Go of Moderation
I took a 90 day break from drinking in March-June 2019 and then returned to drinking because surely I was cured! If I actually had a problem, then it wouldn’t have been that easy, right?
Tears came to my eyes when I had my first drink on day 91. The relief was so intense. After that, I controlled it for 2 months by only having 2 drinks on Saturday night and stopping. I had never done that before. I did this because I stopped socializing completely and I kept myself very isolated and “safe” from triggers.
However, the first moment I negotiated on my rules was the last. Before I knew it, I was right back to drinking how I was in March 2019 when I desperately took that break. I got stuck for 4 more months before I could get out again.
On November 9, 2019 I was watching the sun come up after drinking and hating myself all night and I said, “I can never drink again”.
I accepted that I can never change the way I drink no matter what. I felt a wave of peace and I knew I was free.
Who is this course for?
People who have taken breaks before (even short breaks count!), but maintain the hope that they’re different, that they can figure it out someday, and that they can learn how to moderate.
Please note: this course is not available for content creators or coaches. This is not continuing education.
What You’ll Gain When You Remove the Debate
A calmer nervous system
A reward system that no longer runs alcohol calculations
A brain that stops fatiguing from negotiations and bargaining
Mental bandwidth you didn’t know you were burning
Freedom that comes from ending the debate, not winning it through force
FAQS
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How is this course delivered?
This is an audio course that you can listen to privately.
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How long will I have access to this course?
You will have access for 1 year. This includes any updates or new material during that time.
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How much time will I need to commit?
Each lesson is 10-15 minutes long. I do not recommend binging this course. This course is designed to make you think, so you can change the way you think. You should devote as much time is required to deeply think through the material.
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Will this course get me sober?
While it would be amazing if this course could get everyone sober immediately, I cannot make that guarantee. Instead, even if you do slip or relapse, you will have gained the tools to analyze it, learn from it, and prevent it from becoming just another “data point”
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Are you supporting me during this course?
There is no 1:1 or group element during this course. You can get support and encouragement in my private community or we can work together 1:1.
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What is your refund policy?
If you listen to the first lesson and decide it’s not for you, then I will give you an 80% refund. If you have listened to more of the course, then I cannot offer you a refund.